Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew2017-12-27T16:42:45+00:00

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Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew

Updated and expanded edition, 2012, Future Horizons

One of the autism community’s most beloved books, Ten Things Every Child with Autism Wishes You Knew brims with insight, compassion and spirited humor as it takes a timeless, succinct, and informative look at ten characteristics that help illuminate—not define—children with autism.

Ellen’s personal experiences as parent of children with autism and ADHD, autism author, and contributor to publications, classrooms, and websites around the world coalesce to help readers delve into deeper understanding of communication issues, social processing skills, and the critical role adult perspective plays in guiding the child with autism to the meaningful life that is his or her birthright.

A bonus section includes ten more essential, thought-provoking “things” to share with young people on the spectrum as they cross the threshold of adulthood, and an appendix of more than seventy questions suitable for group discussion or self-reflection. A perennial autism bestseller, Ten Things sounds an ever-resonant call to action, carrying the reader farther into understanding the needs and the potential of every child with autism.


  • Bronze Winner in Psychology, Foreword Book of the Year Awards
  • Honorable Mention in Parenting, Foreword Book of the Year Awards
  • Gold Award, Mom’s Choice Awards
  • iParenting Media Award

Praise for Ten Things Every Child With Autism Wishes You Knew

A superb explanation of how sensory processing challenges can affect a child’s behavior, and how occupational therapy in a sensory integration framework can effect wondrous changes.

Carol Kranowitz, author of The Out-of-Sync Child series and The Goodenoughs Get In Sync

Written with passion and sensitivity, this book’s goal is to help parents teach their autistic children to function in everyday life. The skills that parents will learn through its chapters will be relevant throughout the child’s life, long after they’ve transitioned into adulthood . . . A well-written book peppered with a sense of humor.

Alaina Brandenburger, WebPsychology

Ellen Notbohm reminds us once again that we should learn more than we teach and that we should listen more than we talk. This new edition of Ten Things emphasizes these points and offers readers new material and dozens of rich questions for discussion.

Paula Kluth, PhD, author of You’re Going to Love This Kid and Pedro’s Whale

This is quite an unusual book, promoting a new paradigm, (a whole new outlook) on autism . . . these aren’t ten baby concepts which will only hold true for a small part of your child’s life.  They’re adult ones, mantras for living—and they apply forever.

Gavin Bollard, Life with Asperger’s

Ten Things is so essential that I recommend it constantly.

Jennifer McIlwee Myers, author of How to Teach Life Skills to Kids with Autism or Asperger’s and Growing Up with Sensory Issues: Insider Tips from a Woman with Autism

Positive, inspirational, insightful, intelligent, and emphatic. Ellen Notbohm’s messages cross over to families of children with many special needs . . . Ten Things will be a permanent addition to your book shelf. A timely and timeless resource you will reread when you need signposts to navigate around the pitfalls in your parenting or teaching journey.

Lorna d’Entremont, publisher of Special Needs Book Review and co-owner SentioLife Solutions, Ltd.